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You feel like you’re at the lowest point of your life. Hopeless, lonely, depressed, filled with anxiety, feeling like an outcast. You wish you were more creative, energetic, humorous, outgoing, fit and motivated but you couldn’t.
You look around. Everybody knows what they’re doing, they’re motivated, driven, good-looking, successful and most importantly happy. You feel lost or lack behind in life, clueless about your future like a punctured scrap car standing amidst an F1 race track.
That’s exactly where I was, LOST. But when I feel disheartened, I just remind myself of two things. One,
Do people make fun of you? Call you names? Outcast you? And you go around trying to please everybody? Think about it, What’s the big deal? Does this mean the end of the world? Nope. But what’s the point of living if you’re uncomfortable under your skin? I know it hurts, but it always turns out to be better.
Whoever you are: Geek, introverted, skinny, fat, gay, lesbian or a transgender. OWN IT! WEAR IT AS A BADGE OF HONOR! If your friends don’t accept for who you’re, guess what? Fuck them! They weren’t your friends in the first place.
You’re imperfect and everybody in the world is too. Accept yourself for who you are. Why? That’s what makes you unique, takes you much closer to your authentic self and that’s the best way to live a contented life. But what about careers, what if you’re broke? What if you don’t know what to do with your life?
We’re supposed to get a job by 22, get married before 30, pop out intelligent kids before 33, Then WHAT? It aggravates me when people tell me this. Look, the only person who knows what’s best for you is you. Always be open to suggestions but never let someone else take your decision. There’s another thing,
I remind myself of the stars. Why? Apart from their majestic beauty and peaceful attire, I believe they convey something magnificent. It was on one depressed night when I was staring at them, this hit me hard
Failed relationships? Made wrong career decisions? It’s okay and it isn’t the end of the world.
The most probable reason you’re reading this article is that you haven’t figured your life yet, guess what nobody does either. Nobody has a clue with what they’re doing in their lives, but they just cover it up better than you do. And the path of figuring yourself isn’t a head-or-tail thing. Take myself for example,
I chose biology in high school, pursue Computer Engineering as my major, but you know what? I hate both of them and writing is my true passion. And even after writing several articles I still am a lost sheep in the forest, just like you, confused and scared. And that’s Okay!
It’s okay to feel sad, to cry (Even if you’re a man), to make mistakes, to switch careers when you’re 40, to pursue your passion rather than taking the most trodden path, being broke, or not having figured your life by your 20, 30, 40 or any age for that sake. It’s funny how we view life as a race to be won rather than a journey to be enjoyed. You will never get the complete picture. BUT,
You don’t stay there. You get back up. Like a persistent fighter. You own your shit, aim higher, work through failure after failure, you keep experimenting what’s best for you life and be your true authentic self. This isn’t to say any of this is easy. You keep fighting and never give up.
What to do now?
Focus on your essentials first – Chances are you won’t be taking care of your health right now! Focus on it first. A healthy body paves way for a healthy mind. Eat healthy foods(especially your veggies), reduce junk and sugar intake which works wonders on your mental health, hydrate yourself well, move around, do some push-ups every day.
Next, focus on what you wish to be. There is always something you’re passionate about. If you don’t have one don’t worry. Work on a variety of things, programming, photography, art, music, medicine, science, there is something you got to be passionate about. Go figure!
And if you’re broke and around 30 – 60: Get a job for a while, just so to feed your tummy and to have a roof over your head. Work on your missions and passions from there, it’s gonna be a rough road but it would be worth it. Make decisions on the path of least regret.
I give you my word. “You will be okay, your life will turn out better than what you imagine”. I promise. But you have to work for it.
Spread the love, help other people as you grow and the most important thing,
Be real, be you!
- Path of least regret – Say you will regret not being a dentist by your 40 but your parents force you to become a lawyer, choose Medicine over the law.